Should parents help with homework?

A lot of parents are confused about whether to help their children with homework or not.  Eevery parent wants their child to develop and become independent.On the one hand, this is a justifiable reason by parents who do not help their children with the assignment, on the other hand, children who don't get help with their homework may find it challenging to learn. Parental guidance would help them cut excesses and mistakes. Some parents help out, and there are some who don't. Everyone has their reasons, and to an extent, both make sense. Parents can help out and be doing good or causing damage to their kids learning ability and vice-versa.

Some students do not need external help for their homework; others do. Those who do not, have a high level of self-discipline and courage to do so, while those who need help have no effective system on the ground, hence the need for guidance. Parents need to know when to and not to help, the following tips would be of help:

  • Create plans and help them find the resources they need for the assignment. Help them pick a particular time to do their homework; schedule all their activities, and ensure that they strictly follow it.
  • Jointly make specific rules with your kids. Making stringent rules might discourage them and keep them away from you. Instead, make the rules together. When they break it, they do not need scolding before they realize their actions.
  • Ensure daily revision of their school work. Children tend to forget things easily; revising will help them put to heart what they learned in school. Let them tell you what they learned in class. Also, ask them questions from their books. Doing this will make studying more comfortable for them when test or examination comes.
  • Help them set realistic goals. Children are prone to distractions. Help them create feasible plans and realistic goals. Achieving their goals would help build their self-esteem and goal setting ability as they grow older.
  • Be with your kids to put them through their work. It helps you to identify where they get stuck quickly and their strengths. They also feel loved and supported when you are with them.
  • Discuss with their teachers regularly to learn about their performance and recommend materials that would ease their learning process. Do not assume their teachers would teach them everything they need to know.

Parents need to avoid the following mistakes when helping their children:

  • Do not complain about the homework, whether it is bulky or difficult. Children will take to heart whatever you say about their homework.
  • Do not do it for them; only provide guidance. Parents who do homework for their children out of pity are not doing them any good.
  • Do not argue with them over methods to solve it, simply supervise.
  • Please do not allow them to do homework just anywhere; they will not concentrate while watching their favourite TV show.